Rage beyond compare

[sparkindarkness]

My brother's partner, hereby known as the Bitch Queen, has left him after 7 years for one of his friends - one of his mates in fact who my brother has been putting up while he's on leave from the merchant navy - hell, who I put up when my brother's house had a fire. This would be a shitstorm of it's very own, but no, the BQ has to go that little bit further to make sure everyone's lives are as screwed up as much as possible so she can get her sadistic jollies.

She waited until he was in Northampton with work (i.e. leaves at 6:00am back at 6:00pm) and then leaves. But makes sure she has the time to hire a bloody van so she can take the washer, dryer, dishwasher, tv, dvd player, sky box, most of the cutlery, the pictures off the walls and every freaking penny in the house with her. And his cat. The cat he had before they even met. She even took the bloody HERBS from the herb rack, for gods' sake!

She left him a note. A 1 line fucking note. "I'll be in touch." Yeah bitch, I’d advise against it at this point because they won’t find your body if you do.

Oh and several letters she's been hiding (brother leaves before post man arrives) about the HUGE credit/storecard/catalogue debt she's run up. We're talking £15,000 in OVERSPENDING here. All that money spent on NOTHING, pure vanity crap and shinies her demented self can’t resist racking up because she’s too fucking childish to resist her slightest want and too fucking stupid to realise money doesn’t just appear in a bank account.

But there's more. The second mortgage brother and this demented harpy took to do some DIY on the house with has been alterred. See the form Brother filled in was for £5,000. Some work with a pen and the bitch queen took the signed form and made it £35,000. And hasn't paid it. Nor has she paid the original mortgage on the house for 6 months. brother has seen the money go out the account but it's just not made it to the mortgage company. They sent irritated notes which were ignored (found them stuffed in a draw) oh and a COURT summons for MARCH. Which she ignored because that's SUCH a good response to a bloody legal order, isn't it?

And yet more, it seems that this pathetic waste of skin who defiles the ground she walks on has opened catalogue and credit card accounts in my dad's name and MY name and Richard's name and been merrily running up debts on them - in OUR names, using OUR credit rating! The three of us have debts of over £10,000 and bailiff letters and court summons galore hidden in the back of drawers

We took her in and treated her as family from the word go. Mum and dad treated her like the daughter they never had, treated her like one of their own, no different from me or brother. When they burned down the flat mum and dad opened their homes to them. When they burned down their house I opened up mine to them (sure she spent most of her time at friends or her family but she spent at least half the time under my roof)

My brother is staying with me for the forseeable future while his house is sold and his life generally falls apart because of this soulless, selfish bitch. In between trying to stop the poor sod collapsing totally I'm going to try and fix our credit ratings and get her creditors off his back, maybe set him up as a bankrupt.

She’s ripped out my baby brother’s heart and fed it to him after screwing him for every penny he has and every penny his credit rating would allow her to get her claws on. I don’t think I’ve ever known rage like this. I’ve never hated someone this much. We’ve spent days talking to the Bailiffs and the police - for her own sake they better find her before I do.

Comments

[tinimaus.livejournal.com]

Fucking hell.

I'm sorry, I don't usually swear that much in public, but fucking HELL.

Throw the book at her and everything else you can find. May your lawyer-fu aid you.

[sparkindarkness.livejournal.com]

This woman can drive a saint to swear

I need a bigger book. And a catapult to launch it from

[makarov.livejournal.com]

*loans you his Mossie & 2 boxes of #4 buck* have fun

[makarov.livejournal.com]

whack the bitch

[adam-at-lj.livejournal.com]

Hi I got here via tinimaus (I'm her husband), but I felt I had to say how horrid that sounds. What a bitch she is. I don't think I've ever heared anything so nasty. Good luck with clearing up the mess. We'll both be thinking of you and your poor brother.

[sparkindarkness.livejournal.com]

*waves*

She is a speshul kind of speshul. She deserves a prize for truly lowering my opinion of humanity, and it as pretty low before

[ladyhelen.livejournal.com]

Good gods. I don't think "bitch" quite does it, somehow. What a nasty, scheming piece of work. Quite aside from all the heartache and grief it's going to cause the family as a whole I'd say he's well rid of her. Good luck getting it all sorted out, mate - I'm thinking of you. *hug*

[sparkindarkness.livejournal.com]

This is the problem with being brought up with a clean tongue in my head - even when confronted with someone who can only be described with the vilest possible words in the English language - and they not come close, only to find myself loath to use them.

I'm glad she's gone. I mean I've never liked her but I've made the effort. But now? Well, it's better it happens after 7 years than it happens after 10 - every year that goes by just makes the damage the treacherous hag could do more.

Thank you

[klgaffney.livejournal.com]

oh my god. that level of outright fraud ALONE deserves a jail sentence, and to do that to your own family.....i have no words. i'm so sorry. rotting in hell is too good for her.

[sparkindarkness.livejournal.com]

I can only hope - but I doubt she'll face that but by all the gods she deserves to.

It's right what you say - doing this to complete strangers would be beyond shitting, but to family? No, we took her in and held her close - and she just used it to let her stab the knife deeper.

Thank you. At the moment I can't imagine a fate bad enough

[gwailowrite.livejournal.com]

I'm not even related to your borther and I'm fucking furious about this. What bullshit. Can you prosecute for identity fraud/theft for her opening accounts in the names of you and your family. I would drag this bitch through the courts like crazy!

[sparkindarkness.livejournal.com]

I'm enraged. I just wish my brother was - if he could be ANGRY I could do something

Identity theft is a crime, but only something the police bother with if the frauded company (i.e. the company that she bought things from) complain. The police are singularly indifferent on the matter. Without the police there's not much I cna do *fumes*

[kirylyn.livejournal.com]

The Hounds will FEAST on her body (can't eat the heart as she doesn't HAVE one)

so sorry your brother is going thru this hell.

I agree about the id theft. How could she get cards opened in YOUR name without at least your taxid (or whatever the UK uses instead of the SSN)

use all your wily lawyer-fu to throw her into jail. If nothing else, I'm sure there are bench warrants out for failing to appear in court!

[sparkindarkness.livejournal.com]

I think the evil monster will be so polluted as to make them ill for a month.

It's like several stages of hell - I mean you have the break up of a 7 year relationship hell - and then when that fades he'll have the betrayal hell, then there'll be the loss of everything he owns hell... gah, it's like she's gone out of her way to make it as painful as possible.

Most of her debts are for catalogues - which just need a name and address. And it's not like credit cards need social security numbers, just necessary knowledge. I'm shocked at how easy it is for me to order things from a catalogue in someone else's name.

Of course even if it did require ID she would have got it easy. 7 years she's been in the family - in our homes and trust. I mean, you don't think to hide your wallet from your family, that's the thing.

It's CIVIL court not criminal she missed. I have incomplete documents but I gather that decisions have just been made in her absence since she didn't show up

[touchstone.livejournal.com]

Owwwwwww. That really, really sucks.

In a way, I suppose the fact that she took it to outright credit fraud is a GOOD thing. At least in the US (who am I to tell /you/ about UK law, anyway?), she might have gotten away with a lot of the stuff that only involved herself and her husband (er, actually, I'm assuming there - you said partner, and I don't remember their legal status). But it sounds like instead, she decided to venture into BLATANTLY criminal territory.

Send in the Hounds.

(Hey, hiding those summons is probably a criminal offense all by itself. I'm pretty sure it would be here.)

[sparkindarkness.livejournal.com]

Beyond words

Oh yes, by moving beyond just her boyfriend we're into official criminal activity - if the companies bother to report it and if the police actually start to give a damn. I notice a lot of damns not being given from the men in blue.

The hounds are too good for her but I don't have anything bad enough to send so I'll watch them chew on her a bit.

civil summons can be non-criminal, especially for basic repossesion (not that I ever involve myself in such dull law) they just make the decision in your absence (if you can't be bothered to show up and say why they can't repossess the house then the judge is going to let them do it)

[gnarlycranium.livejournal.com]

This calls for the Nuclear Haddock of Bitchsmiting. Holy fucking shit, man. Taking out forged credit cards in the name of a lawyer-- surely that's got to be an offense punishable by booting-off-a-cliff for sheer fucking stupidity. Wow.

[makarov.livejournal.com]

she needs to be taken for a walk in the Wisconsin woods wearing BROWN during deer season

[ephemera.livejournal.com]

Jesus! Talk about adding insult to injury to outrage. Your poor brother! And, well, all of you.

[sparkindarkness.livejournal.com]

It's like she's decided to stab him and then considered just how she can twist the knife to make it as bad as possible

[buddykat.livejournal.com]

Hopefully when the police find that worthless c***, they will find the poor kitty that she stole from your brother. Credit crap can be fixed (not that she doesn't deserve jail time or worse for it), but a kitty can not be replaced!

[sparkindarkness.livejournal.com]

I hope for it - but finding her would require the police to LOOK for her. *sigh*

Aye that's what burns me - you can't replace a pet - she can drag her carcass to any hell she wants for all I care, and I know enough to protect my assest (if not my brother's) but the cat? We can't replace that

[brownkitty.livejournal.com]

You know, there are an amazing number of things that can be used to create pain in the average kitchen...

Please tell your brother, if it would help, that I am deeply sorry he encountered the Dear Tick variant of female.

[sparkindarkness.livejournal.com]

It has been a matter of no small amount of amusement to imagine them all

Thank you and I shall

[cuglas.livejournal.com]

You did fill out police reports on her for identity theft and fraud, right?

I had a family member do this to me when I was much younger and dumber. Never again.

[sparkindarkness.livejournal.com]

Yup, I have a feeling that the report is now being used to hold coffee cups.

You're supposed to be able to trust family. That's supposed to be how it goes - if nothing else is certain in the world, family is supposed to be the immovable rock, the guarding pit bulls and the rallying cavalry. Shit like this shouldn't come from family... it just shouldn't. It goes against the very fabric of our world.

[mandragora1.livejournal.com]

God! I'm so very sorry for you and your brother and your family. She makes my ex-brother-in-law -- who saw the successful culimination of his three years long campaign to punish my sister for having the 'temerity' to divorce him and move away from the area with the kids (even though he's the one who committed adultery, which led to the breakdown of the marriage) come to fruition this very day -- look like a pussy cat.

Obviously she's committed both theft and fraud, and I'm sure you'll be pushing for charges once she's located. Presumably the ex-friend will know where she is?

You've probably already thought of this, but an IVA might be better than going bankrupt, as it should be cheaper and marginally less ruinous to your brother's credit rating. However, is there any possibility that the banks and financial institutions to whom he owes money because he's joint and severally liable with her might give him a sympathetic hearing and write off some of the debt, given that he's a victim of fraud?

It's worth contacting them to see - I used to act for one of the major clearing banks and managed to persuade them to waive interest and legal costs on a mortgage repossession where I was acting for bank and it was quite clear that the borrowers had been receiving wrong and negligent advice from their solicitors. They fought the possession proceedings having been wrongly advised by their idiot solicitors that they had a defence. They didn't, as I told the idiot solicitors ad nauseum, but the idiots kept on quoting out of date case law at me, even though I pointed out the the case had been overruled in the Lords. The idiot solicitors finally instructed counsel two weeks before the trial, counsel immediately realised there was no defence and idiot solicitors contacted me very sheepishly asking to settle by providing vacant possession. By this time - 2 years after possession proceedings had been commenced - the interest and legal fees meant that there was no equity left at all, whereas two years previously the borrowers could have sold up and had enough left to have bought a small property elsewhere.

I told the bank that I thought this was a good case to show a little compassion, as I doubted that the poor borrowers realised their solicitors had been negligent and that they could sue them. The bank agreed and decided that it would only take the principal sum - the amount actually lent and not repaid - from the house sale proceeds and let the borrowers have the rest. Admittedly, this is one of the major clearers, who tend to be a bit more 'sympathetic' than the finance houses, but it can't hurt to try and speak to all of the financial institutions and explain the circumstances and see what they say. They are all insured against theft and fraud themselves, so may be prepared to reach an accomodation with your brother.

Some people are such scumbags. BQ most definitely comes into this category.

[sparkindarkness.livejournal.com]

Thank you. She sets new records doesn't she?

The ex-friend has disappeared with her, alas. We have no idea, not even the slightest. of course, the police could find her probably with relative ease - if they actually shifted their arses and pretended to care.

Dad talked to the police first (against my advice - but he got past the post before I did) and was told "it's a civil matter, not much we can do, here's some pointless advice." I had to call them back and have a long argument with them about how THEFT AND ID THEFT IS NOT A BLOODY CIVIL MATTER NOW MOVE YOUR CAPACIOUS BACKSIDES! I have a feeling the message was neither well received nor acted upon.

I've looked at possible other options but in so many ways I think bankruptcy may be better. I mean, he's lost the house - the 2 mortgages on it are worth more than its actual value and he couldn't afford the monthly payments now anyway. he has no assets. Literally nothing. His bank accounts are empty. He has no furniture no appliances - all he has are the clothes on his back. Even his car is company provided. And debts just keep appearing - more and more and more racking up. It may screw his credit rating 6 ways from Sunday - but clearing all debts - known and unknown - may work out better for him than heavily reduced income for gods know how many years

The lending institutions have been kindness itself, I cannot deny. But even if they writ off half the debt it's still an amount that's going to be tying him down for years to come. We've spent the last week or so calling round and just letting everyone know what's happened. Universally they've frozen interest and repayments while we catch our breath and have some meetings - so we can see where we go from there.

[gnarlycranium.livejournal.com]

Wait... and the other dude, the merchant marine or whatever-- he wants this cankerous bitch WHY exactly?

[lilisonna.livejournal.com]

Some people are just stupid.

[suryaofvulcan.livejournal.com]

Much as I hate to say it, this is not the first time I've heard of women screwing over their husbands/partners like this. I know of at least two others. Just be thankful there are no kids involved - I know of one mad bitch who pulled all that kind of financial crap when she left her husband, and then decided to play sadistic mind games with their adopted son into the bargain (the fact that he was adopted is significant here). Son ended up committed to a psychiatric hospital. Hubs is about the nicest guy in the world too.

I don't know what it is about some women, they seem to need to hate the man they divorce. They work themselves up into a frenzy where they will do almost anything to 'get back at him' for whatever perceived wrong he did to them - real or imaginary. It's pretty sick.

[suryaofvulcan.livejournal.com]

Oh, and I just wanted to add, before doing anything about bankruptcy, make sure your bro gets proper impartial debt counselling. He should be able to get this for free either through the Citizens Advice Bureau or possibly the local council.

[etumukutenyak.livejournal.com]

Oh, that's awful -- he has been betrayed by someone he loved. Please tell your brother he has our sympathy and prayers. I wish you good luck in your hunt for justice.

[sparkindarkness.livejournal.com]

Thank you.

It's beyond awful, but we will get through it - in time.

[elrohana.livejournal.com]

I hope you find the cat. Your poor brother. We're not that far from you geographically, when my Beloved hears the story and finds out about theft of cat, he will probably offer to help Hunt The Bitch Down. Seriously.

[sparkindarkness.livejournal.com]

The cat really rankles with me. I mean, to take the cat, a pet just cannot ever be replaced. That's just awful.

We already have the HUGE FAMILY looking, but from what i hear she may have fled far afield. Originally she's from Lincolnshire and the bastard "friend" is Welsh. The only quasi-ties they have are in Manchester - but they don't seem to have many friends from the past.

I wonder why.

[being-here.livejournal.com]

Oh that's bloody awful.

I know he is likely to be shafted, but will you and your dad manage to recover your credit rating ok?

[sparkindarkness.livejournal.com]

It's a whole new level of sheeer shittiness

Dad and I should be ok... I mean, it may take a while but it helps that both of us have extremely good credit ratings anyway so even if we can't wipe the stain of her mess off our records, our previous good records should stand us in good stead

[lilisonna.livejournal.com]

Hang her out to dry, Sparky.

[sparkindarkness.livejournal.com]

I hope beyond words that we can

[beladibaby.livejournal.com]

HUGS!!!! to your brother. Much in the way of vibes for you and your family to get the identity theft she did to you fixed quickly and without too many hassles,and every fiber of my being is rooting for you and your family to throw the proverbial book at her and press charges for the fraud she committed against you all!

[sparkindarkness.livejournal.com]

Thank you.

It's draining but step by step we're putting this together. I just wish the powers that be would give us more help throwing that book

[logophilos.livejournal.com]

Omifuckingod.

Normally taking sides in a relationship breakup is a bad thing but this? This is criminal, literally. Take her apart.

You and your family have my sympathies. Your poor brother.

[sparkindarkness.livejournal.com]

To say the least.

Aye, I'm generally as neutral as I can - but sometimes it seems one side goes out there way to be the villain. And this? It's almost artful just how low she's gone.

Thank you

[solid-squid.livejournal.com]

Holy shit that's awful, hope you manage to get hold of her fast (whether would be better before or after the police do I'm still uncertain)

Oh, and I'm still trying to get over the absolute stoopid of fucking over someone and their family like this when that someone is a goddamn lawyer! WTF?!

[sparkindarkness.livejournal.com]

I dearly wish we could get her - whether with the police or not I just want her to pay... but increasingly it's looking out of our grasp.

She's always been shortsighted - and it looks the same here. She takes and runs, consequences be damned. It makes you wonder if she's done it before.

It's so frustrating! There's so much we could do but with the police being so useless and her nowhere to be found there's nothing! It's enraging!

[soappuppy.livejournal.com]

Holy shit.

You're going to need a bigger haddock. *starts fishing*

*So* sorry :( Kick her ass :(

[sparkindarkness.livejournal.com]

I'm upgrading to sharks on this one.

Thank you. I just wish I could picture us taking her down

[everxxafter.livejournal.com]

Is that woman even *human*!?

So sorry you and you family have to go through this. Drag that bitch to court!

[gnarlycranium.livejournal.com]

I often wonder how people even try to pretend to justify this kind of shit to themselves. I mean, maybe, MAYBE if the brother has some kind of insane serial killer side nobody else in his family has noticed, I could see there being some anger-- but this is just... bizarre.