Random musing
Jul. 14th, 2009 01:05 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
sparkindarknessI am often accused of being excessively calm. Oh I can be excited, passionate, silly, giggly, furiously enraged, crazy and certainly random - but afraid, worried or panicked? Not really. I never really understood worrying that much.
Oh, I do worry, occasionally. Sometimes. But very rarely and not for very long. Part of it is because I'm very good at compartmentalising my mind - something worries me, I think for a while, then set it aside and get on with other thoughts. Worry has been pushed aside. This annoys Beloved because he can't see how you can just NOT think about something that's worrying you. Personally, I look at the world and think that most of it has mastered the technique - ignoring the elephant in the room is an international sport.
But minaly I manage to avoid fretting, worrying and panic by being pessimistically optimistic. Which makes no sense - so amuses me.
Whenever something happens, the very very VERY first thing I do is think of the worst case scenario. What's the WORST POSSIBLY THING that could happen? No matter how improbably, I always look for the worst, most apocalyptic scenario.
Then I generally think "does this involve me starving in the gutter with 4 broken limbs being hunted by velociraptor riding Nazis?" Usually, it doesn't. In fact, usually the worst case scenario is a lot lot lot better than that. Usually the worst case scenario, while unpleasant, is usually NOT THAT BAD. I probably won't die. I probably won't lose everything. My life will still be worth living. So... it's not too terrifying is it?
Or to put it another way: only life and death are life and death. Don't blow things out of proportion and no matter how unpleasant, awkward or plain horrificly awful the worry is - the chances are the worst case scenario won't break you.
This just seems... I dunno, it's always worked so easily to me to a point where I don't UNDERSTAND why people are freaking out? When I see people freaking out because of relatively minor things - well, yes, some of them are extremely distressing. But where are the velociraptor riding Nazis? I mean, I sympathise and want to help and certainly make accomodation for the freak out... but I never quite understand it.
Oh, I do worry, occasionally. Sometimes. But very rarely and not for very long. Part of it is because I'm very good at compartmentalising my mind - something worries me, I think for a while, then set it aside and get on with other thoughts. Worry has been pushed aside. This annoys Beloved because he can't see how you can just NOT think about something that's worrying you. Personally, I look at the world and think that most of it has mastered the technique - ignoring the elephant in the room is an international sport.
But minaly I manage to avoid fretting, worrying and panic by being pessimistically optimistic. Which makes no sense - so amuses me.
Whenever something happens, the very very VERY first thing I do is think of the worst case scenario. What's the WORST POSSIBLY THING that could happen? No matter how improbably, I always look for the worst, most apocalyptic scenario.
Then I generally think "does this involve me starving in the gutter with 4 broken limbs being hunted by velociraptor riding Nazis?" Usually, it doesn't. In fact, usually the worst case scenario is a lot lot lot better than that. Usually the worst case scenario, while unpleasant, is usually NOT THAT BAD. I probably won't die. I probably won't lose everything. My life will still be worth living. So... it's not too terrifying is it?
Or to put it another way: only life and death are life and death. Don't blow things out of proportion and no matter how unpleasant, awkward or plain horrificly awful the worry is - the chances are the worst case scenario won't break you.
This just seems... I dunno, it's always worked so easily to me to a point where I don't UNDERSTAND why people are freaking out? When I see people freaking out because of relatively minor things - well, yes, some of them are extremely distressing. But where are the velociraptor riding Nazis? I mean, I sympathise and want to help and certainly make accomodation for the freak out... but I never quite understand it.