I am drunk
Oct. 5th, 2008 01:04 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
sparkindarknessIt's my birthday. I am now disgustingly close to 30. I am, naturally, freaking about this in my usual annual fashion.
In addition after weeks of distraction I have finally had chance to examine my hair. Mother's genetics have indeed gifted me with her "my hair was pure silver before I was 30" legacy (which, it has to be said, beats my brother inheriting my dad's legacy of "my hair was thinning to severe comb-over territory before I was 30") after years of agressively plucking out grey hairs, the last few months of ignoring it has revealed that I have 5 choices:
1) hair dye
2) pluck out all my grey hair and experience premature baldness in a VERY painful fashion
3) Try to aim for the distinguished look (except my body, height and face tends to put me in my late teens so this? Probably won't work.)
4) Rejoice that clients won't assume I'm on work experience.
5) consider making a grey streak work for me in some kind of cool fashion statement
In light of these events and this pondering, I think my drunkenness is more than justifed. Now I'm going to curl up in a corner and freak out.
In addition after weeks of distraction I have finally had chance to examine my hair. Mother's genetics have indeed gifted me with her "my hair was pure silver before I was 30" legacy (which, it has to be said, beats my brother inheriting my dad's legacy of "my hair was thinning to severe comb-over territory before I was 30") after years of agressively plucking out grey hairs, the last few months of ignoring it has revealed that I have 5 choices:
1) hair dye
2) pluck out all my grey hair and experience premature baldness in a VERY painful fashion
3) Try to aim for the distinguished look (except my body, height and face tends to put me in my late teens so this? Probably won't work.)
4) Rejoice that clients won't assume I'm on work experience.
5) consider making a grey streak work for me in some kind of cool fashion statement
In light of these events and this pondering, I think my drunkenness is more than justifed. Now I'm going to curl up in a corner and freak out.
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Date: 2008-10-05 12:09 am (UTC)(I hear you. I stopped dying my hair about six years ago and found to my horror that it'd been covering silver for I don't know how long. I'm just glad it looks like silver wire and not the sickly yellow that happens sometimes. Silver wire is cool and can be played off.)
And have a drink or three for me!!!
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Date: 2008-10-19 12:33 am (UTC)TYhe problem with dye is because of my long hair if I change my mind I will end up with odd roots.
I AM getting a streak, hopefully - but it's mainly fairly patchy. I'm hoping the streak develops more - I can work with that.
Thankee, I think I had enough drinks for everyone :)
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Date: 2008-10-05 12:21 am (UTC)I *adore* premature grey on men, especially on men with a full hear of hair. I think it's sexy beyond belief - silver fox, mmmm mmmm! Don't you dare dye or pluck, young man!
In lieu of being able to give you a bottle of champers in person, I shall consume a bottle of wine tonight in your honour :)
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Date: 2008-10-19 12:35 am (UTC)See, I can see the attraction of premature hair - but usuallyu on people who are relatively tall and more mature featured. My having grey hair would be like Michael J Fox having grey hair or Orlando Bloom or Elijah Wood - people who look relatively youthful.
Amen! The world should hereby drink to Sparky day!
=)
Date: 2008-10-05 01:00 am (UTC)Believe me, when I was much younger, 30 seemed so far away and I used to freak out whenever I think about that age. But, as I get older and start to realize that my schooling isn't going to be done until I'm like, 31. Thing didn't seem as scary as it once did.
I think that most people are used to think of age in a very deterministic way. For example, in the past, women over 35 are regarded as dried up or spinsters, unless they've got 17 sproglets crawling all over them by that age. However, as our medical science evolves, things are staying the same longer and longer and the dreaded benchmarks in time start to lose their meaning. (Although I'll fully admit that 45 still freaks me out, but only because I can't imagine what my life will be like then. I'm sure that as I get closer to it, it'll start to get more cuddly as well.)
Regarding your silver streak, I've got to say that after dating my ex, I would thank the heavens that you inherited your mom's genes rather than your father's genes (Back in 2001, when Nate was 21 and we were together, his forehead was already getting wider by the month. Based on recent pictures published on his new husband's website, he's getting frighteningly close to the regain age.). Besides, if Anderson Cooper taught the world anything, it would be that silver haired men can be every bit as sexy as those with Melanin in their hair.
Re: =)
Date: 2008-10-06 02:11 am (UTC)Re: =)
Date: 2008-10-19 12:46 am (UTC)I have a real trouble with aging. Not as in "I'm old and decaying and dying" but more as in the "I'm an adult, gods, I'm actually an ADULT!" which really freaks me out. mentally I'm firmly a teenager.
I am thankfully praying that I get the silver hair and not the baldness. Baldness? I could not have dealt with that. Silver - well, I'll freak but deal.
Yes, he is super sexy. BUT a) he is older then me and B) he has the face and build for it. I don't think it goes with me
Re: =)
Date: 2008-10-19 02:07 am (UTC)You're not alone in the "OMG! I'm an adult!? When?! Fuck that!" camp at all. I mean, I'm only three years younger and I'll fully admit that my birthday in July totally made me depressed. I mean, how is it that I was hip and "with it" in March, but I'm now an old fart in August?! I think that as the citizens who are so used to the lifestyle of contemporary western civilizations (e.g., America, Britain, France... et cetera.) progress, they'll begin to fully appreciate the idea that age is not a set alarm clock. I mean, if you take a look at the oldest civilizations of the world, you begin to see things like kids still living at home at 30, or people that you perceive to be old actually needing to answer to their parents- I don't know if this is completely valid or not, but I really believe that age is subjected to relativity, as are how one's expectations and behaviors in life. Thus, it's not a surprise to feel as you and me do, nor is it that our ancestors' old rural way of familial life is coming back full circle. In a nutshell: Don't freak too much. You're not alone. Worse case scenario, you can always feed beloved to the fates as a sacrifice, no? I mean, he is older than you, no?
About the whole silver haired sexiness thing, I suspect that you might not look too bad with it. I mean, the real important person (other than you) who needs to approve is beloved, and I suspect that you'd be sexy and fuckable to him, even if you were covered in slime. Nonetheless, if you want a specific analysis, you can always send me a face pic and I'll make an objective evaluation. =P
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Date: 2008-10-05 01:07 am (UTC)My father went grey by time he was 21, and dyed his hair for a few years. I've been going grey since I was 5, so I haven't had the chance to freak out about my hair.
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Date: 2008-10-19 12:51 am (UTC)It WILL help me look my age rather than a kid - but I'm not ready to be more than a kid :P
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Date: 2008-10-19 08:32 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2008-10-05 02:27 am (UTC)I got my first silver hairs at the age of seventeen - I also take after Mom like that.
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Date: 2008-10-19 12:52 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2008-10-05 04:14 am (UTC)And don't worry about gray hair...it can be damn sexy.
(no subject)
Date: 2008-10-19 12:52 am (UTC)It can be - on the right man. I'm just not sure I am that type
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Date: 2008-10-05 05:03 am (UTC)On a more serious not, hippo birdies two ewes, all that jazz, and don't you dare get rid of gorgeous silver hair. Srsly. Don't do it.
(no subject)
Date: 2008-10-19 12:54 am (UTC)Thankee :)
I shall seeee how it developes *glares at hair*
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Date: 2008-10-05 05:11 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2008-10-19 12:55 am (UTC)Hmmm, I think not on that score :P
(no subject)
Date: 2008-10-05 06:36 am (UTC)It definitely suits men better though - just look at George Clooney.
(no subject)
Date: 2008-10-19 12:56 am (UTC)It does - IFD you have the rugged/masculine/mature face for it. But one of the natural "eternal youth" faces (like Michael J Fox or Orlando Bloom) and I don't think it goes so well
Distinguished!
Date: 2008-10-05 08:32 am (UTC)*hug*
Re: Distinguished!
Date: 2008-10-19 12:56 am (UTC)*hugs*
(no subject)
Date: 2008-10-05 11:03 am (UTC)Ask Beloved's opinion. Betcha he'll answer with an evil grin and handcuffs ;)
(no subject)
Date: 2008-10-19 12:57 am (UTC)He cannot be trusted. He is evil, so he is.
(no subject)
Date: 2008-10-19 01:08 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2008-10-05 12:01 pm (UTC)So happy birthday, keep thinking 18 and you'll be fine!
(no subject)
Date: 2008-10-19 12:59 am (UTC)That's what I'm doing :) I think 17 ()well 16 maybe) all the time and cling to it -which is why I think birthdays shock me. I spend all year chanting "I'm 17, I'm 17, I'm 17) and then suddenly I get a wakeup call "You're 27!" and then it's *CRUMBLE* time
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Date: 2008-10-05 05:05 pm (UTC)Thirty isn't so bad. It's when you realize that thirty isn't old, thirty-five is old.
I'm guessing that when I hit thirty-five, then forty will be old.
Also, you would totally rock a silver streak. I'm just letting mine go. From where the silver is coming in, I'm guessing that in five years or so, I'll have streaks to rival Rouge from the x-men. How awesome is that?
And you can tell people you're not getting older, you're leveling up.
(no subject)
Date: 2008-10-19 01:00 am (UTC)I bet 25 won't be old when we hit it :) lol.
I just hope it will be a streak. It's looking that way and I could live with that, but there's patchy grey elsewhere that may defeat it
I DINGED 27!
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Date: 2008-10-06 01:59 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2008-10-19 01:02 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2008-10-06 02:24 pm (UTC)(and option 5, I think. I'm hoping I'll go grey instead of peach, so I can be rocking the bum length grey hair thing...)
(no subject)
Date: 2008-10-06 03:04 pm (UTC)Pleasepleaseplease?
(no subject)
Date: 2008-10-06 03:25 pm (UTC)right - credit is: by_ttc_graphics
(and *thnak you* for asking - appreciated :D)
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Date: 2008-10-19 01:03 am (UTC)Lonmg grey hair! I'll be an ageing hippie! Cool.
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Date: 2008-10-06 03:03 pm (UTC)*throws confetti* Happy (late!) Birthday!
As for grey hairs...don't even start. I am NINTEEN and I have grey hairs. Which looks very weird in red hair. *hugs* Lol.
As for the grey streak/distinguished look..what colour is your hair naturally? If its a dark colour, like daaaaaark brown to black, it might look good. If its black, you could have a sexy Sweeney Todd thing going with the streak, haha! If its a lighter colour then...I don't know. My mom's trying to do the whole "natural" thing, and she has really light coloured hair, and frankly she looks rather silly.
At 27 (I'm right, right? I could have SWORN you said you turned 26 last year) however, grey hair may be a bit much. You may want to consider dyig it.
Thats IMHO though; the decision is ENTIRELY up to you, dear.
...My cosmetology training is showing o.O *hides*
(no subject)
Date: 2008-10-19 01:05 am (UTC)I think i could have dealt with it if it had thrown in heavily during my teen years. Teenage grey hairs = premature grey = nothing to worry about. Grey hair NOW = AGEING which is TEH SCAREH!
My hair is daaaaaaaaaaaaaaark brown to the point of black until you see the highlights. Which makes the grey hair SCREAM at you.
Aye... 27. Damn I've got to get used to saying that. *shudder* I'm thinking dye - I don't have the mature face to go with distinguished grey
Belated...
Date: 2008-10-07 10:34 pm (UTC)I vote for letting yourself get all distinguished and let the grey/silver come in. Of course, this is coming from a woman who is going silver early... Only a clump off-center from the crown for the most part - which I get lots of compliments on.
Good luck. Keep us posted. Cheers!
Re: Belated...
Date: 2008-10-19 01:06 am (UTC)I just hope it will look distinguished and not weird
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Date: 2008-10-09 04:08 pm (UTC)Regarding the hair thing, it sounds like you're a smidge younger than me. I've got pure white hairs coming in, RIGHT up front and in my part where they're blatantly obvious, of course.
That said, I like mine - they look like little silver wires, and I think they get me more respect from my co-workers and boss. I'm of course fighting being a woman in programming, so any bit of respect I can claw out is a victory. With your profession, they'll probably also be beneficial. Nothing is going to make the client respect you if they're drunk, in a holding cell, and you have to show up at 3 AM in your clubbing clothes, but it should help in your offices and in court at least :D
Looking mature isn't a bad thing. "Mature" doesn't mean "decrepit" it means "not an idiot youth any more", and I personally find that dead sexy. Match it up with a confident attitude, good clothes to signal financial responsibility and awesome taste, and crown it with social skills and it's a totally powerful package.
AND if you don't go bake yourself in the sun until you look like boot leather every summer, it's a package that can last you for the next 50 years!
(no subject)
Date: 2008-10-09 04:09 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2008-10-19 01:18 am (UTC)Of course, grey hairs aren';t polite to be subtle about it, grrr
I'm hoping and clinging to the good side - maybe I won't be treated like a kid. But at what cost?
But I AM an idiot youth., I'm not ready to be mature! :P
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Date: 2008-10-14 03:27 pm (UTC)I'm going to be 30 in a couple months... shh... and still look like a 16 year old girl too... except for the greys I see every now and then (and yank like a fiend after naming them after people causing me stress).
Don't be horrified. They look distinguished on guys. :) And if you go pure silver, that could be hawt, too... look at Sephiroth! If you're really that concerned over the grey... there's always the hair dye option. ::hugs:: We'll still adore ya, even grey. :)
(no subject)
Date: 2008-10-19 01:18 am (UTC)I think I shall have to poke it and see for a bit