Is age a taboo topic?
Sep. 18th, 2008 10:26 pmBecoming more pertinent with the American elections where one of the candidates is chronologically gifted I have seen some republicans lash back with what we might term the ageism card (just as complaining that Sarah Palin is bugnuts insane is apparently some kind of sexiam, but I digress). And (unlike Sarah Palin) some (but by no means all) of the criticisms of McCain are based entirely on his age - especially since his untimely (or, let's face it, at his age rather TIMELY) demise would make Palin the President of the USA. Ok, a quick break there while you all recover from the utter horror of that thought.
But is it unfair to treat age in this way? I mean (in the UK at least) we have anti-age discrimination laws. It is unfair, unacceptable and it often is based on simple prejudice rather than reality. The aged can be vibrant, alive, active, intelligent and incisive. It is wrong and unfair to assume that someone is flawed, incapable or otherwise less than a younger person
But all discrimination laws have a "reasonable requirement" exception. If you can PROVE (for whatever reason) that you need to exclude whoever then you can get round the law (it's just going to be HELLA difficult to ever prove that a woman/black man/homosexual cannot do a job). Because the law recognise that there may, sometimes, be a case where practicality prevents a principle applying (which is why I've always said it's perfectly acceptable to fire someone whose religion makes them incapable of doing the job they've been hired for) and ageism is most certainly one of them - especially when it comes to a job that is guaranteed for 4 YEARS if not 8.
Now, I may be prejudiced on this. I have my own deep seated fear of aging. ANyone reading this journal knows I freak every birthday. I don't deal with aging, not at all. Part of that comes from the genes, I think. As my mother has said - our family is cursed with longevity. The men live into their 80s and the women are usually well into their 90s.
Sounds like an odd "curse" doesn't it? Well it is a curse. They EXIST into their 80s/90s. Their bodies and minds start giving out in their early 70s. They're usually dead years before they stop breathing. Some are in constant, crippling physical pain that drugs can't touch (or the side effects were as bad as any disease). Some were so crippled they had no amenity left and lived in a prison of eternal boredom. And some, like Nana, lost their minds and lived in a world of constant terror and uncertainty. I wouldn't wish on a dog the kind of existance most of my elderly relatives had to endure before the finally succumbed to whatever slow, agonising, disgusting, dignity stealing disease that finally claims them. I more than suspect at least 2 of my relatives have been helped on their way by loved ones who can't take it any more and, frankly, I have nothing but praise for those who had the courage to end such torture. I've already made it clear to Beloved that before I get to that stage I'd rather jump out a window or be smothered in my pillows because I REFUSE to live like that.
So maybe I'm biased. But I look at a 72 year old man and think not only "there's a good chance of him dying before he finishes that term" but also of the DETERIORATION that is a natural (and cruel) part of the aging process. Physically and mentally he risks declining - even if he just gets weaker and tires more easily, he is at a time of life where sudden ailment and sudden decline are very possible. Worse, if his mind goes you will NOT notice right away. Because you don't. We didn't. But confusion and bemusement and false memories can and will strike long before anyone notices that judgement is seriously impaired.
So no, I don't think age is something you can brush under the rug here. You can't swipe down commentors with cries of ageism, it's a legitimate concern and one that is very very worrying
But is it unfair to treat age in this way? I mean (in the UK at least) we have anti-age discrimination laws. It is unfair, unacceptable and it often is based on simple prejudice rather than reality. The aged can be vibrant, alive, active, intelligent and incisive. It is wrong and unfair to assume that someone is flawed, incapable or otherwise less than a younger person
But all discrimination laws have a "reasonable requirement" exception. If you can PROVE (for whatever reason) that you need to exclude whoever then you can get round the law (it's just going to be HELLA difficult to ever prove that a woman/black man/homosexual cannot do a job). Because the law recognise that there may, sometimes, be a case where practicality prevents a principle applying (which is why I've always said it's perfectly acceptable to fire someone whose religion makes them incapable of doing the job they've been hired for) and ageism is most certainly one of them - especially when it comes to a job that is guaranteed for 4 YEARS if not 8.
Now, I may be prejudiced on this. I have my own deep seated fear of aging. ANyone reading this journal knows I freak every birthday. I don't deal with aging, not at all. Part of that comes from the genes, I think. As my mother has said - our family is cursed with longevity. The men live into their 80s and the women are usually well into their 90s.
Sounds like an odd "curse" doesn't it? Well it is a curse. They EXIST into their 80s/90s. Their bodies and minds start giving out in their early 70s. They're usually dead years before they stop breathing. Some are in constant, crippling physical pain that drugs can't touch (or the side effects were as bad as any disease). Some were so crippled they had no amenity left and lived in a prison of eternal boredom. And some, like Nana, lost their minds and lived in a world of constant terror and uncertainty. I wouldn't wish on a dog the kind of existance most of my elderly relatives had to endure before the finally succumbed to whatever slow, agonising, disgusting, dignity stealing disease that finally claims them. I more than suspect at least 2 of my relatives have been helped on their way by loved ones who can't take it any more and, frankly, I have nothing but praise for those who had the courage to end such torture. I've already made it clear to Beloved that before I get to that stage I'd rather jump out a window or be smothered in my pillows because I REFUSE to live like that.
So maybe I'm biased. But I look at a 72 year old man and think not only "there's a good chance of him dying before he finishes that term" but also of the DETERIORATION that is a natural (and cruel) part of the aging process. Physically and mentally he risks declining - even if he just gets weaker and tires more easily, he is at a time of life where sudden ailment and sudden decline are very possible. Worse, if his mind goes you will NOT notice right away. Because you don't. We didn't. But confusion and bemusement and false memories can and will strike long before anyone notices that judgement is seriously impaired.
So no, I don't think age is something you can brush under the rug here. You can't swipe down commentors with cries of ageism, it's a legitimate concern and one that is very very worrying
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Date: 2008-09-21 12:41 am (UTC)Even if he does go off the deep end of bugnuts insanity he'll STILL be a more appealing choice than his VP, no matter how much he dribbles.
All in all it's a level of badness that just isn't ideal for the position he's interviewing for
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Date: 2008-09-18 09:57 pm (UTC)Yeah, I think there are certain jobs where age should be considered as a factor. My mum is 71, fit as a fiddle, mentally as well as physically (hell, she goes line dancing 3 nights a week and has a social schedule of committees and the like that makes my working day look easy) but she's the first to tell you that's she ain't as on the ball as she used to be. She wouldn't want too much responsibility at her age. So why does McCain?
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Date: 2008-09-18 11:55 pm (UTC)She wouldn't want too much responsibility at her age. So why does McCain?
Because he genuinely feels that he is the best person for the job.
And that, given that the last 8 years and the 1988-1992 years weren't enough for him, should disqualify him as "inescapably demented" immediately.
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Date: 2008-09-18 10:16 pm (UTC)but his father was dead at 70. hell, yes, it's a valid concern.
[and the previous commentor's mention of reagan is a good point--i remember the reagan years, too.]
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Date: 2008-09-21 12:44 am (UTC)It is definitely a concern - it's worrying that you will have a president who will at very least tire easily and who most certainly can't rule out "senior moments."
Is it too much to ask for a candidate who has a good chance of living out his term?
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Date: 2008-09-19 01:14 am (UTC)I also saw an article (not that I can recall *where* now) that detailed the six of ten symptoms of Alzheimer's that McCain has exhibited. And McCain doesn't have to die for Palin to take office; he just has to be incapacitated.
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Date: 2008-09-21 12:50 am (UTC)If McCain gets in office and goes through the same process he's going to look like the Undead. Well, more like the undead.
Well repeatedly he is showing every sign of having "senior moments" the only reason it wasn't so noticeable with McCain was because Bush was one loooooong senior moment.
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Date: 2008-09-19 11:30 am (UTC)I won't be voting for McCain, not due to his age or previous/future health issues, but due to his politics.
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Date: 2008-09-21 12:51 am (UTC)Even 80 year olds in good health notice deterioration - lack of energy if nothing else - and that can't be a good thing in a President.
Oh there are a shed load of other reasons not to vote for him, most certainly, but I think this one is valid too