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Frustration
Nov. 14th, 2005 10:58 pmSometimes there is just no good answer.
A devout but generally calm homophobe and myself. Talking about kids after someone else asked him how he would react if any of his kids were gay.
His answer? He would tell them he loved them (a good start at least) but that homosexuality was a perversion against what was meant to be and he would do what he could to help them out of sin. Oh dear.
My comment: I am not going to touch that, you all know my opinions by now. I would say to ANY parent faced with a gay child that there are organisations out there who can help. Seriously, you will need help - instinct really isn't going to guide you through this. My parents are the most tolerant wonderful people ever, they did everything they could to make my coming out easy - yet on 3 seperate occasions they have hurt me quite badly, one of them really devastated me. They didn't mean to. They meant nothing by it, but they did because they didn't know. Didn't realise.
Him: Do you think my kids have never done anything I disapproved of or was against how things should be?
Me: Of course not. All kids do things their parents dislike. But, have your kids ever BEEN something that was a perversion against what was meant to be? Take that question as rhetorical. I expect no answer or response - I'm leaving this as I don't think it will get any better.
If I go any further, I will just anger him. And I will get angry too. This is such a touchy issue with me - a homosexual kid coming out - especially to their parents - is one of the most vulnerable times a person can ever be and too many get really screwed up from it.
A devout but generally calm homophobe and myself. Talking about kids after someone else asked him how he would react if any of his kids were gay.
His answer? He would tell them he loved them (a good start at least) but that homosexuality was a perversion against what was meant to be and he would do what he could to help them out of sin. Oh dear.
My comment: I am not going to touch that, you all know my opinions by now. I would say to ANY parent faced with a gay child that there are organisations out there who can help. Seriously, you will need help - instinct really isn't going to guide you through this. My parents are the most tolerant wonderful people ever, they did everything they could to make my coming out easy - yet on 3 seperate occasions they have hurt me quite badly, one of them really devastated me. They didn't mean to. They meant nothing by it, but they did because they didn't know. Didn't realise.
Him: Do you think my kids have never done anything I disapproved of or was against how things should be?
Me: Of course not. All kids do things their parents dislike. But, have your kids ever BEEN something that was a perversion against what was meant to be? Take that question as rhetorical. I expect no answer or response - I'm leaving this as I don't think it will get any better.
If I go any further, I will just anger him. And I will get angry too. This is such a touchy issue with me - a homosexual kid coming out - especially to their parents - is one of the most vulnerable times a person can ever be and too many get really screwed up from it.