And to family

[sparkindarkness]

No I didn't answer the phone while I was away. Why? Because the whole POINT of this little break was to have some ALONE time. It was, to be extremely blunt about it, to GET AWAY FROM YOU.

Not because I hate, dislike or otherwise think negatively about you (well, not much) but because, like just about everyone in my mother's branch of the family, I have an extreme anti-social/hermit streak and your CONSTANT desire to be THERE in my life is raising my stress levels ridiculously. I need to pull a Greta Garbo now and then for the sake of sanity. Don't get offended, don't get upset, don't dump drama on me - it's not about you, it's about what I need.

Yes, beloved came with me because a) he doesn't count and b) he is one of the best people I have ever known when it comes to respecting my space and realising that sometimes I need to be alone. Even better, he doesn't get mortally offended when i want to be alone - because he realises this is about my need for solitude not about my not liking him

Comments

[jocelyncs.livejournal.com]

*patpat* It is frustrating to be a hermit in a family of social butterflies, isn't it? I'm glad Beloved understands that. I rarely need to "get away from" my family, but unless I'm specifically invited to a get-together, I'm rarely the one to take the initiative.

[sparkindarkness.livejournal.com]

It's insane! The amount of times in my life I have had family members say "You're alone? OH! I'll come down then!" and acting like it's a favour and a DUTY for them to come and drink my coffee

I DO need to get away because they won't leave me alone and when i try to force it they act offended - thankfully Beloved not only understands my need for solitude but is willing to guard me as well

[meridae.livejournal.com]

and because partners who are attuned to each other know how to be alone together. ::nodnod::

that's on of my fantasies of domestic bliss - just having someone to hang out with, but not actually be doing anything together, just knowing the other person is there . . . like he/she could be watching something on telly (okay, so it's likely to be a he, so watching rugby say) while I'm knitting . . . and we're not actually talking or interacting, but we still know the other is there.

Or something.

Ignore me, I'm crazy.

[buddykat.livejournal.com]

Ignore me, I'm crazy.

No you aren't. That's one of the nicest things about a good relationship. My SO lives on the other side of the country from me, and we often spend hours on the phone, just "hanging out". We don't have to be talking the whole time, but it's nice to know that the other person is right there - even if it is on the other end of a phone line, across the country.

[sparkindarkness.livejournal.com]

We're atttuned! I don't know if that will involve hippy drugs or painful mechanical alignment

hmmm

can it do both?
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Not crazy, very very sensible. Knowing someone is there and finding their company alone to be sufficient

[thisdaydreamer.livejournal.com]

*sigh*

It is a sad fact of life that there are those who do not appreciate the beauty of solitude. If you don't want to be with them, it has nothing to do with sanity after all, it is because you dislike them a great deal and will someday be described by a reporter as "someone who seemed nice, but was very quiet and kept to himself - none of his neighbors could have guessed that he could have committed such horrible acts of violence...."

[sparkindarkness.livejournal.com]

I know - these people who want to be with other people ALL THE FRAKING TIME?! What is WRONG with them?!