Holidays

Now that was surprisingly not awful.

 It was bad, don’t get me wrong, but it wasn’t the long drawn out hell of relatives I want to kill with a flamethrower  but can’t because there’s so many of them and it’d cause a severe fire hazard.

 Part of it is simply that our vast huge family is breaking up. As the oldest generation shuffles off their mortal coil, a lot of my parent’s generation, my generation and my nieces and nephew’s generation are less inclined to make the effort to stay in touch with 3^rd cousins and the like. There are one or two lynchpins and the clan will generally keep in touch – but the endless visiting and HUGE DAMN PARTIES are probably a thing of the past. I think I’m, supposed to be sad about this but… I’m not. I’m generally of the opinion that if you lose touch with someone, there’s usually a reason.

 Of course some of the awful was still there with the family gatherings I couldn’t duck, but I’ve found a nice counter tactic if just gasping “WHY DO YOU WANT TO RUIN CHRISTMAS?!” at them in an increasingly shrill and louder voice until they subside and leave me alone. Not the most mature response, but surprisingly effective. I’ve backed it up by assuming anyone mentioning anything about being gay is coming out to me, when they say they’re not, I ask them a) why they care and b) why I should care what they have to say. Also rather effective.

Thankfully, my own holiday celebrations happen on the solstice, so I can endure the annoying without it ruining my day. Beloved’s holiday celebrations happen around wherever bottles of booze are open

 Dramas aside, we were faced with a terrible terrible scourge. Poultry.
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More Slurs, More Hate, More Defenders

Like many many many celebs before her, Azealia Banks has taken to twitter to express her hatred and contempt for gay men. I’m beginning to think it’s becoming an essential part of being a celebrity – become well know, start twitter account, start using f@ggot. I suppose it ensures the assault against our self-esteem and worth are truly unrelenting .

 Unlike most, Azealia hasn’t gone to her PR people to tell us how out of context and mistaken it all is (that would be Fantasia’s Barrino’s tactic). She’s quite happy to stand by her bigotry and let that hate and contempt fly high. A proud bigot who holds so much contempt fopr gay men, how nice.

 Don’t even try to give me that reclaiming bullshit. It isn’t “reclaiming” a word if you use it as a weapon. Reclaiming a slur means taking it, stripping it of its negative and wearing it as pride. Not using it as a weapon so you can express your contempt and loathing of all gay men.

 And that word isn’t hers to reclaim! You can’t reclaim a word that isn’t used against you. And in case the f@ggot wasn’t already abundantly clear as an attack against gay men specifically, then how about:

 

“does your butthole whistle? Like is your butthole so stretched and raggedy the air whistles when you move?”

 

 

Are we clear enough yet that this vile bigot is specifically targeting gay men with her nasty attack?

 These are words and phrases that attack all gay men. If you want to attack a specific arsehole then do so, by all means. But when you use slurs and attacks that target someone for being a gay man, then you are expressing your very clear hatred and contempt for all of us. You are dehumanising all of us.

The worst thing about this is not this horrible woman spilling her hatred and showing her homophobic arse for the world to see – the worst thing is the sheer legion of people twisting themselves backwards and into knots to justify and defend her. I honestly haven’t seen this many people storming out to defend homophobia since Tracy Morgan decided stabbing gay kids was funny.


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