We live to serve

There is an ongoing trope of GBLTQ people as servants, adjutants and otherwise assistants in the life of straight people. I say trope because we see this a lot on TV and in books, but really trope is inaccurate because this is one of those that has bled out a lot into real life as well – and it's deeply problematic.

In fiction we see a lot of side-kicks, a lot of side-characters, mentors, advisers – always there to lend a hand and support to a straight protagonist. And this leaks – ye gods does it leak – into the real world. Not just with so many GBLTQ people being unable to find a depiction of themselves centre stage – but also in how we're often treated.

Just look at the GBF trope. I don't really have to say more about it since I've already ranted about it a lot – but again, we are treated as accessories, servants adjutants to other people's lives.

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So that was educational

It all began with me making lasagne. I love lasagne, there's a gazillion ways you can make it and all of it is delicious and supreme. It's like the emperor of food. All hail lasagne

Anyway, Beloved was watching me make lasagne (all hail) and he said – I kid you not – he said “isn't that too much garlic?”

Yes, he did. He really did. He who serves boot leather commented on my cooking methods. He actually did. And no, I did not stab him. No, really. Not even a little bit. Doesn't that make me a saint of incredible tolerance? Yes I do believe it does!

We had a discussion about how much garlic was appropriate (lots) and what garlic goes with (everything!) which rapidly escalated

And got a little silly.

For which I blame him, of course.

Anyway, I learned many things. Garlic in coffee is horrible as is garlic in milk and ice cream. Really horrible. Raw garlic bulbss should not be eaten, and it is possible to want to vomit and still force a smile and say “YUMMY” between clenched teeth.

Isn't learning fun?

Needless to say, there will be vengeance. And it's all his fault.

Oh, and the lasagne? When eaten proved to have just the most perfect amount of garlic in it. So there.