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My annual valentines day rant
Feb. 12th, 2009 02:11 pmAs may or may not be known, i hate Valentines day. And LJ better not take the opportunity to defile the site with a sacchirine pink banner of vomit like last year *shudder*
Most of it I have covered before. In fact, in 2007 I said pretty much all that needs be said: http://sparkindarkness.livejournal.com/2007/02/13/ but I do love repitition.
A "romantic" gesture is not romantic because it is mandatory. And Valentines day is mandatory. It is as personal as the DVLA and has about the same level of emotional meaning. We give presents and gifts on Valentines day not because of love but because it is expected, because it is demanded, because we will look bad if we don't. We send cards because we have to, not because the messages within are deeply evocative of our feelings (it's a printed card with a generic message - how can this even remotely be romantic?) Unlike anniversaries, Valentines day doesn't even testify to your ability to remember a date since the advertising industry is there to remind us every 10 seconds. Blah, I've said it before and I've said it again - for something to be romantic it has to be PERSONAL to the people involved (not generic) or it has no meaning and it needs to be motivated by affection - not social requirements
But I have another bitch about Valentines day since I've already ranted about the crappiness of the "romance" this day supposedly represents
I also hate depictions of Cupid. Cupid/Eros. Now call me picky, but I kind of think that the god of erotic love, the son of Venus, goddess of love, the husband of Psyche, goddess of self, the father of Volupta, goddess of pleasure - the man who was so beautiful Psyche was willing to spend eternity tracking him down is rather poorly depicted byt an overweight baby with some aerodynamically improbably wings. I rather doubt that the Greeks and Romans imagined Cupid as a pre-adolecesent - nay, a babe in arms! And if they did it just clashes in my brain. To me Cupid is, among other things, the very personification of sex, passion and infatuation and the little pink baby? Not so much. Cupid should be a flaming hunk of pure sex. It is known.
I could make a long in depth post here about the desexualisation of Valentines Day and how we are historically and culturally so terrfied of sex, so anti-sex, so disgusted and repulsed by sex that we have to to turn one of its avatars - perhaps one of its most iconic, prevalent and long-lasting avatars into something as utterly sexless as we can possibly imagine. A baby - a being that is not only utterly without sex but that the mere association of sex with it would repel us. Honestly, that's pretty fucked up of us, when you think of it and shows just how deeply unhealthy our attitudes towards sex and sexuality actually are.
But mainly I just want hot cupid man porn. Because that would make the holiday waaay better.
Most of it I have covered before. In fact, in 2007 I said pretty much all that needs be said: http://sparkindarkness.livejournal.com/2007/02/13/ but I do love repitition.
A "romantic" gesture is not romantic because it is mandatory. And Valentines day is mandatory. It is as personal as the DVLA and has about the same level of emotional meaning. We give presents and gifts on Valentines day not because of love but because it is expected, because it is demanded, because we will look bad if we don't. We send cards because we have to, not because the messages within are deeply evocative of our feelings (it's a printed card with a generic message - how can this even remotely be romantic?) Unlike anniversaries, Valentines day doesn't even testify to your ability to remember a date since the advertising industry is there to remind us every 10 seconds. Blah, I've said it before and I've said it again - for something to be romantic it has to be PERSONAL to the people involved (not generic) or it has no meaning and it needs to be motivated by affection - not social requirements
But I have another bitch about Valentines day since I've already ranted about the crappiness of the "romance" this day supposedly represents
I also hate depictions of Cupid. Cupid/Eros. Now call me picky, but I kind of think that the god of erotic love, the son of Venus, goddess of love, the husband of Psyche, goddess of self, the father of Volupta, goddess of pleasure - the man who was so beautiful Psyche was willing to spend eternity tracking him down is rather poorly depicted byt an overweight baby with some aerodynamically improbably wings. I rather doubt that the Greeks and Romans imagined Cupid as a pre-adolecesent - nay, a babe in arms! And if they did it just clashes in my brain. To me Cupid is, among other things, the very personification of sex, passion and infatuation and the little pink baby? Not so much. Cupid should be a flaming hunk of pure sex. It is known.
I could make a long in depth post here about the desexualisation of Valentines Day and how we are historically and culturally so terrfied of sex, so anti-sex, so disgusted and repulsed by sex that we have to to turn one of its avatars - perhaps one of its most iconic, prevalent and long-lasting avatars into something as utterly sexless as we can possibly imagine. A baby - a being that is not only utterly without sex but that the mere association of sex with it would repel us. Honestly, that's pretty fucked up of us, when you think of it and shows just how deeply unhealthy our attitudes towards sex and sexuality actually are.
But mainly I just want hot cupid man porn. Because that would make the holiday waaay better.