Speaking as someone who's pretty much directly in the middle of the Kinsey scale, I'll say that you nailed it pretty well, so rather than address your points directly, I'll ramble for a bit.
For me -- particularly as a bisexual female -- there's also an odd sense of guilt. The guilt is even stronger since I wound up finding (and marrying) a partner who happened to be male, so I to all intents and purposes look pretty much like a happy het. I'm not; it's really a matter of timing and coincidence that my partner turned out male. But by loving the person that I do, I often feel like I'm not doing my part to support GLBT rights. (Not, mind you, that I'm going to drop him to go find a cause-acceptable female.)
I find it frustrating as a bi female to hear things like "Oh, you're only interested in girls because it's trendy/men find it hot/Madonna kissed Brittany." No, really. I like girls because, well, they're girls. They have neat squishy bits and they're tasty and yummy and awesome. Denying that I am sexually attracted to women would be a denial of who I am, and that's not good.
Really, I think the point to emphasize in the whole Then there’s the nasty thing that a lot of the homophobic crazies are telling us gay folks we need to change, that we should change, that we could change if we just tried hard enough! Then there’s this group of people who CAN seemingly change and that oh-so-does-not-help when we say we CAN’T saga is that actually, no. Bisexuals can't change either. The non-poly of us are perfectly capable of picking one person (of some indeterminate gender) and sticking with them, but that doesn't meant that we don't occasionally want or lust after the other one. The feelings and desires are still there. just because I'm married to a wonderful man doesn't keep me from looking at attractive women. (It also doesn't keep me from looking at attractive men either.)
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For me -- particularly as a bisexual female -- there's also an odd sense of guilt. The guilt is even stronger since I wound up finding (and marrying) a partner who happened to be male, so I to all intents and purposes look pretty much like a happy het. I'm not; it's really a matter of timing and coincidence that my partner turned out male. But by loving the person that I do, I often feel like I'm not doing my part to support GLBT rights. (Not, mind you, that I'm going to drop him to go find a cause-acceptable female.)
I find it frustrating as a bi female to hear things like "Oh, you're only interested in girls because it's trendy/men find it hot/Madonna kissed Brittany." No, really. I like girls because, well, they're girls. They have neat squishy bits and they're tasty and yummy and awesome. Denying that I am sexually attracted to women would be a denial of who I am, and that's not good.
Really, I think the point to emphasize in the whole Then there’s the nasty thing that a lot of the homophobic crazies are telling us gay folks we need to change, that we should change, that we could change if we just tried hard enough! Then there’s this group of people who CAN seemingly change and that oh-so-does-not-help when we say we CAN’T saga is that actually, no. Bisexuals can't change either. The non-poly of us are perfectly capable of picking one person (of some indeterminate gender) and sticking with them, but that doesn't meant that we don't occasionally want or lust after the other one. The feelings and desires are still there. just because I'm married to a wonderful man doesn't keep me from looking at attractive women. (It also doesn't keep me from looking at attractive men either.)
Anyway, thumbs up. You did good, Sparky.