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sparkindarkness) wrote2007-09-15 03:12 pm
sparkindarkness) wrote2007-09-15 03:12 pm
And to family
No I didn't answer the phone while I was away. Why? Because the whole POINT of this little break was to have some ALONE time. It was, to be extremely blunt about it, to GET AWAY FROM YOU.
Not because I hate, dislike or otherwise think negatively about you (well, not much) but because, like just about everyone in my mother's branch of the family, I have an extreme anti-social/hermit streak and your CONSTANT desire to be THERE in my life is raising my stress levels ridiculously. I need to pull a Greta Garbo now and then for the sake of sanity. Don't get offended, don't get upset, don't dump drama on me - it's not about you, it's about what I need.
Yes, beloved came with me because a) he doesn't count and b) he is one of the best people I have ever known when it comes to respecting my space and realising that sometimes I need to be alone. Even better, he doesn't get mortally offended when i want to be alone - because he realises this is about my need for solitude not about my not liking him
Not because I hate, dislike or otherwise think negatively about you (well, not much) but because, like just about everyone in my mother's branch of the family, I have an extreme anti-social/hermit streak and your CONSTANT desire to be THERE in my life is raising my stress levels ridiculously. I need to pull a Greta Garbo now and then for the sake of sanity. Don't get offended, don't get upset, don't dump drama on me - it's not about you, it's about what I need.
Yes, beloved came with me because a) he doesn't count and b) he is one of the best people I have ever known when it comes to respecting my space and realising that sometimes I need to be alone. Even better, he doesn't get mortally offended when i want to be alone - because he realises this is about my need for solitude not about my not liking him
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that's on of my fantasies of domestic bliss - just having someone to hang out with, but not actually be doing anything together, just knowing the other person is there . . . like he/she could be watching something on telly (okay, so it's likely to be a he, so watching rugby say) while I'm knitting . . . and we're not actually talking or interacting, but we still know the other is there.
Or something.
Ignore me, I'm crazy.
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No you aren't. That's one of the nicest things about a good relationship. My SO lives on the other side of the country from me, and we often spend hours on the phone, just "hanging out". We don't have to be talking the whole time, but it's nice to know that the other person is right there - even if it is on the other end of a phone line, across the country.
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hmmm
can it do both?
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Not crazy, very very sensible. Knowing someone is there and finding their company alone to be sufficient