And to family

[sparkindarkness]

No I didn't answer the phone while I was away. Why? Because the whole POINT of this little break was to have some ALONE time. It was, to be extremely blunt about it, to GET AWAY FROM YOU.

Not because I hate, dislike or otherwise think negatively about you (well, not much) but because, like just about everyone in my mother's branch of the family, I have an extreme anti-social/hermit streak and your CONSTANT desire to be THERE in my life is raising my stress levels ridiculously. I need to pull a Greta Garbo now and then for the sake of sanity. Don't get offended, don't get upset, don't dump drama on me - it's not about you, it's about what I need.

Yes, beloved came with me because a) he doesn't count and b) he is one of the best people I have ever known when it comes to respecting my space and realising that sometimes I need to be alone. Even better, he doesn't get mortally offended when i want to be alone - because he realises this is about my need for solitude not about my not liking him

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[jocelyncs.livejournal.com]

*patpat* It is frustrating to be a hermit in a family of social butterflies, isn't it? I'm glad Beloved understands that. I rarely need to "get away from" my family, but unless I'm specifically invited to a get-together, I'm rarely the one to take the initiative.

[sparkindarkness.livejournal.com]

It's insane! The amount of times in my life I have had family members say "You're alone? OH! I'll come down then!" and acting like it's a favour and a DUTY for them to come and drink my coffee

I DO need to get away because they won't leave me alone and when i try to force it they act offended - thankfully Beloved not only understands my need for solitude but is willing to guard me as well