Some statistics have come out from the US saying that only 43% of people think being gay is wrong. There is also this nifty little table showing that over a quarter of Americans wouldn‘t want gay neighbours (sadly, most of the people looking at that seem to be utterly indifferent to the fact that having gay neighbours is considered the worse thing EVAH! but that’s another point).
They join statistics from the UK that say only 36% of people now say that homosexuality is wrong.
And, y’know what? I’m really having a hard time dancing with glee over all of these.
Sure, things are getting better. The number of people willing to openly wear their bigotry is going down. But 43%/36% still thinking being gay is immoral? And 27% of people not wanting gay neighbours? That’s a hell of a lot of bigotry out there.
And I said “wear their bigotry openly” for a reason. Because at least part (and my cynical mind says that it’s a large part) of those people saying they’re not anti-gay have woken up to the fact that saying “ewww homos!” is no longer particularly well thought of and edit their words accordingly.
Yes it’s getting better. Yes opinions are very different to what they were 30 years ago – this is progress, don’t get me wrong..
But, I‘m sorry, but it’s not good. It’s better, certainly, but it’s not good. Almost Half or a third of people running around still thinking “ewww gays icky” and being willing to own that is still damn frightening. Over a quarter of people huffing because gay people have moved in next door is not a good thing.
I don’t know what I‘m trying to say here, it’s nice to celebrate progress – but I do have a feeling that we, as GBLTs, tend to take crumbs and act like we have a cake. We tend to jump up and down and let off fireworks at the most partial, looks-like-a-victory-if-you-squint-and-
And we do need the positive to keep us from either crawling in a corner and crying, or reaching for an axe and hacking (hmmmm hacky goodness), but I fear the low expectations and SETTLING that comes from leaping for joy when someone throws us a crust . And I do think, occasionally, we need to look at that crust and say “uh, yeah – where’s the damn loaf?!” And that’s not selfish and ungrateful. Equality is not a freaking gift. Equality isn’t a present someone gives us. It’s OURS it SHOULD be ours, it belongs to us and it is being wrongly denied. If a thief steals your car and gives you back a wheel, you do not say thank you and run around rolling it like it’s the best thing ever. You demand the rest of the car (and find a mechanic who can put the wheel back on, but here the metaphor endeth).
(Also, the next person who says “Zomg gay rights are so new and you want it all at once, how selfish” is going to get a slap. GBLTs have not just been persecuted in the last 50 freaking years. We have been universally persecuted, imprisoned, tortured and killed for freaking centuries across many parts of the world. Do not try to paint it as a new thing just because we have been so damned persecuted for so damned long that merely admitting our existence was damn near a high bloody crime. Stop belittling us like that, stop dismissing us like that. It’s homophobic, it’s blinkered and it’s wrong).
Now good news? Good news is that Iceland has not only passed a gay marriage law – but has done so Unanimously! That is good news Gooooo Iceland We totally forgive you for the volcano